Love, Laugh, Live

I have read many books so far. Several hundreds of them. But on Monday I started reading the BEST one ever!

Now you are probably wondering what the book is…but I am not going to tell you. YET! (follow my next posts and you will find out)

But what I do want to share with you from the book is how to get out of you comfort zone. FAST!

Short Answer:

DO something outrageous! Something you would normally not even consider doing.

Okey, now just before you start putting this into practice, here are some examples of outrageous behaviour:

(I wouldn’t like you to go and start blowing up buildings or anything like that)

- stare into people’s eyes in public transport (the bigger and more confident they are, the more this will push you out of your confort zone)- and remember, staring is LEGAL!

- go and ask somebody to pay for your lunch. To make sure you follow through, go to lunch with no wallet.  So you really need to ask somebody otherwise you do not eat.

- on the street, ask an atractive looking person of the opposite sex for their telephone number (in case you are married, or bound to get married like I am- go for a less atractive person

- go to a ticket entry place (may it be museum, cinema, gallery, etc) and ask  for a free admission

- and feel free to add

Now, just before you go on thinking this is just adolescent play (because that is exactly what I thought as well when i read them), TRY in ON! DO it!

Get out of your confort zone and have fun!

I can almost guarentee that after you do it, you will have a great feeling of achievement, no matter the result. It is the DOING that matters!

Oh, and let me know how it goes!

After a loong time of inactivity on the blog, I have decided last weekend that I am want to restart writing…and this time to KEEP to IT!

And funnily enough, the very topic of this very blog post shows HOW I took the decision and I am now 100% sure I will stick to it.

Because after starting the blog somewhere last year, and posting a bit…I just stopped.

And started creating some pretty scary pictures in my head:

“oh, people will not read what I am writing!”

“or even if they did, they wouldn’t like it”

and from there “actually, i am pretty sure they will not like it because I am not a very good blogger”…and so on and so forth.

Bottom line is that, soon enough (and though a number of my friends had praised me for the blog posts and the comments were good), because I just kept amplyfing the bad pictures…I really ending up being SCARED to write on the blog.

If you knew for sure you would be judged, blamed, people would think less of you, would you probably be SCARED as well?

(the only thing I was not aware is that all this movie was just in my imagination)

SO, I didn’t write anything any more.

Adn then, last week, I came across this quote:

“Name your FEAR, before BANISH it you can”

Yoda, Star Wars

“AHAAAAAAAAAAAAAA”, I told to myself while loudly slapping my forehead.

In a flash, I realised what I had done.

How I had created a whole fantasy and how because I never for once actually stopped to disect my FEAR MOVIE about writing on the blog, I had not even known that I was afraid. I just stopped writing.

Immediately, I started naming my fear:

What am I actually afraid of?

What is the worse that can happen if I post on the blog?

And after clearly realising that it all boiled downt o people judging me as a poor blogger, I kept asking questions:

“So what if they judge me?What is the worse that can happen?” (well, I would certainly still live, so it isn’t that bad

“Who do I actually write for” (well, I write to share my learnings, and if the readers will take something out of it, GREAT> If not, well, that’s that)

“Am I forcing them to read” (if I am bad, they may just choose another blog)

…

“pfiiiiiuuuuu, does that feel good”, I said to myself with a big relief when I finished answering the questions.

I here I am writing my first post now.

Surely it does work: “NAME the FEAR, before BANISH it you can”

So, What is your biggest fear now?

(if you tell me you have none, I will nave great difficulty believing

THen ask yourself specific questions about the fear:

What are you really afraid of?

What is the worse that can happen to you?

(ask yourself questions as if you were a child wanting to learn from you how manage to be AFRAId)

Would love to read how you feel after doing the process…is the FEAR still that BIG?

Or even better, is it still there?

I have just found a quite unique piece of history about the rivalry between Japan and Korea (both North and South).

It seems that when the Japanese conquered Korea (which was not yet separate back then), at the beginning of the 19th century…and they did quite a number of bad things to its inhabitants…culminating with the change of the countries name!!!

Korea was initially spelt Corea. But because the Japanese wanted to show their superiority even in the NAME!!…they changed it to Korea, so that in alphabetical order Japan would be in front.

And just to add a little bit of “American Presidents making an ass of themselves”, when Clinton came to South Korea a couple of years ago, he was quated of saying:”Japan is more developed than your country”.

Quite an conversation ice-breaker, don’t you think?

History lesson for tonight: Over and out! Thank you Tristan! (Tristan is the one who told me these things)