Overcoming FEAR!
After a loong time of inactivity on the blog, I have decided last weekend that I am want to restart writing…and this time to KEEP to IT!
And funnily enough, the very topic of this very blog post shows HOW I took the decision and I am now 100% sure I will stick to it.
Because after starting the blog somewhere last year, and posting a bit…I just stopped.
And started creating some pretty scary pictures in my head:
“oh, people will not read what I am writing!”
“or even if they did, they wouldn’t like it”
and from there “actually, i am pretty sure they will not like it because I am not a very good blogger”…and so on and so forth.
Bottom line is that, soon enough (and though a number of my friends had praised me for the blog posts and the comments were good), because I just kept amplyfing the bad pictures…I really ending up being SCARED to write on the blog.
If you knew for sure you would be judged, blamed, people would think less of you, would you probably be SCARED as well?
(the only thing I was not aware is that all this movie was just in my imagination)
SO, I didn’t write anything any more.
Adn then, last week, I came across this quote:
“Name your FEAR, before BANISH it you can”
Yoda, Star Wars
“AHAAAAAAAAAAAAAA”, I told to myself while loudly slapping my forehead.
In a flash, I realised what I had done.
How I had created a whole fantasy and how because I never for once actually stopped to disect my FEAR MOVIE about writing on the blog, I had not even known that I was afraid. I just stopped writing.
Immediately, I started naming my fear:
What am I actually afraid of?
What is the worse that can happen if I post on the blog?
And after clearly realising that it all boiled downt o people judging me as a poor blogger, I kept asking questions:
“So what if they judge me?What is the worse that can happen?” (well, I would certainly still live, so it isn’t that bad
“Who do I actually write for” (well, I write to share my learnings, and if the readers will take something out of it, GREAT> If not, well, that’s that)
“Am I forcing them to read” (if I am bad, they may just choose another blog)
…
“pfiiiiiuuuuu, does that feel good”, I said to myself with a big relief when I finished answering the questions.
I here I am writing my first post now.
Surely it does work: “NAME the FEAR, before BANISH it you can”
So, What is your biggest fear now?
(if you tell me you have none, I will nave great difficulty believing
THen ask yourself specific questions about the fear:
What are you really afraid of?
What is the worse that can happen to you?
(ask yourself questions as if you were a child wanting to learn from you how manage to be AFRAId)
Would love to read how you feel after doing the process…is the FEAR still that BIG?
Or even better, is it still there?